Ptathuk asks: how does J feel about the direction our lives are taking, what if any reservations does she have, and how have I reassured her?
First, thanks so much for the comment — I get surprisingly few of them considering how many of you seem to visit here every day, but I can understand. I don’t leave many comments on any of your blogs either. I guess we’re all a bit shy.
J is very much her own person, as am I. She does nothing she doesn’t want to do, and that’s as it should be.
As I’ve written before, neither of us are “scene” or “role playing” people. We’re integrating domination, submissiveness, chastity and orgasm control into our very real, very busy and stressful lives. There are no gasmasks or latex bodysuits anywhere near our relationship. We’re making this up as we go along, with nothing to guide us but love, honesty and instinct.
That said, we openly accept between us the truth of female superiority, and the absolute necessity of a wife’s complete control of her husband’s orgasms. It’s remarkable how many times in the course of our lives we hear about some guy that completely fucked up, whether it be in his marriage or personal life, and we find ourselves asking each other whether it might have been different had he been cricketed.
I’m pretty much constantly in the cricket, and as of today it’s been 33 days, with a week to go before I get to come again. J loves keeping me locked up.
While she’s become very used to having a cock that jumps to attention for her at the drop of a hat, she’s also expressed exasperation at times at my tendency to become “clutchy” after 20 or so days in chastity.
That’s understandable: she gets to come every day, and I’ve become accustomed to taking more sensual satisfaction in hugging, kissing and cuddling than I ever have before in my life. That can become tedious to a recipient who doesn’t have restrictions on the ability to orgasm. I know it’s an issue, and I work on it. The last thing I want is for her to allow me to orgasm out of a desire to be let alone. KOOKY, I KNOW.
On another note, do you know it’s been more than a year since I’ve masturbated? I DO. And I’m also aware that many of you probably check in here to look at the pictures and masturbate to the idea of orgasm control. Maybe I’m masturbating vicariously through you by posting them. I don’t analyze it anymore.
Trying to figure out why I crave J’s sexual and personal domination, or that she keep me naked as often as possible, or that I be responsible for eating any cum I ejaculate, is a fool’s errand, and ultimately irrelevant. What is, is. Sex is not the enemy. If people are lucky, love finds the way, the same way a flower turns toward the sun.
i’m not one to usually leave a comment, but your message today sounded very much like my marriage and what we’re trying to do.
My Wife and lead busy, stressful lives, and as “empty nesters” both working from home, the line between working and leisure is very blurred. W/we sort of play at being in a FLR. i guess i’m one of those males who is paradoxically excited by the idea of chastity, and i’ve urged my Wife/Mistress to please oh please oh PLEASE take control of my orgasms.
Your statement of one year without masturbating is incredible, and i wonder how i could get The Mrs to go along with using hardware to get me to comply with a no-self abuse directive.
Although i’m not a regular reader of blogs, much less someone who leaves a comment, i do try to track this one, and pledge to leave more comments in the future.
I’m another that reads regularly and with great interest, but haven’t had time to really and thoughtfully comment. Your path is of interest to many of us, and we appreciate your willingness to share the journey… please continue.
In my own world, I am much more into the chastity play than the sub realm, but as we all choose our own paths in the journey, I appreciate the diversity of those paths.
I imagine the intensity of your relationship intimacy is well beyond the majority of the populace, by the shear nature of the trust and communication between you. Bravo!
How you proceed and the courage that you embrace to further your journey is admirable. Again, thanks for sharing!
Thanks, Grey!
Hey Michael, I wasn’t actually fishing for comments, but thanks for yours, and good luck with “using hardware.” We’ve found it makes all the difference.
j,
Thank you. I love the last picture in the series. You know my view: honesty is *always* the best policy.
This answers so many questions, and poses a few more. Does J check this blog, to see where your mind’s at? I think you did mention. Maybe it was early on?
From the sound of it, you’re inspiring others. Hat’s off to that. Would the occasional blog by J inspire wives, too? Here’s hoping.
Continued good luck
ptathuk
Just love the pictures of women holding a males genitals.A man holding his own just looks wrong now.You have obviously been holding yours less.
I think more and more people will embrace Female Led till it becomes the norm.A lesser number but still growing will find Female Supremacy the way for them.
As someone who has posted previously, I enjoy the photos, but also the sentiment that you have found new levels in your relationship through chastity. While it’s not for everyone, I think any attempt to break through the stereotype of the cringing servant or sissy maid is laudable.
Keep pushing those boundaries.
Outstanding blog. Loved the post about the renewed wedding vows. I would love to attend that wedding. we have had a similar thought too. great blog, great wife you are a llucky guy…keep posting Ill be back